tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6796218940491767939.post5192484351590105433..comments2024-02-14T08:51:58.230-05:00Comments on Reflections: Power and our boysPatricia Ivanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02748691542068211518noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6796218940491767939.post-55141596398565983392017-10-20T09:21:14.976-04:002017-10-20T09:21:14.976-04:00Sometimes confronting aggressors and trying to und...Sometimes confronting aggressors and trying to understand their violence causes them shame but that is not "shaming" or "punishing" them. People tend to conflate the two. We can adapt our interventions to suit the situation: confront the men we love gently and with compassion. We can be more forceful in the face of denial. And, when a public figure denies his violence, he gets what he deserves.Patricia Ivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02748691542068211518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6796218940491767939.post-38968187403827432572017-10-20T09:10:37.469-04:002017-10-20T09:10:37.469-04:00I question if manipulation, a conscious act, is be...I question if manipulation, a conscious act, is behind violence, of all kinds, against women. There my be true manipulators and power-mongers out there who know exactly what they are doing. But I do not believe that is always the case. I think most men are not self-aware enough to know why they are doing what they are doing. There are so many cultural and psychological factors making it easy for a man to be violent. Consciousness-raising involves more than public campaigns and slogans; though they are a start. It requires people to truly examine themselves. We need more philosophy, psychology, sociology and history in school. We need drama classes where we act scenarios out.Patricia Ivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02748691542068211518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6796218940491767939.post-42166699222647474762017-10-19T23:04:28.519-04:002017-10-19T23:04:28.519-04:00Where do we draw the line between trying to unders...Where do we draw the line between trying to understand and get to the root of the problems and shaming/punishing? <br />Dry Drowninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07859668459999066131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6796218940491767939.post-31130651944136689942017-10-19T22:57:39.454-04:002017-10-19T22:57:39.454-04:00With 2 months of retrospect, I wonder if you would...With 2 months of retrospect, I wonder if you would apply the same empathy and view to understanding why men act as they do to the current and growing #meToo movement (Harvey Weinstein)? Does sexual violence (or even sexual manipulation) differ and if so, how? Dry Drowninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07859668459999066131noreply@blogger.com