taking the swords out of words

~ sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me It has taken me a long time to not disregard that rhyme as just plain wrong. Words, never hurt? What about the pen being mightier than the sword? Harsh words can wound us to our very cores. You can remove a sword but you cannot unhear words. No, I always thought, "Words hurt like hell!" and for that reason have long dismissed forgiveness as a disingenuous attempt to let something go when in reality it is killing us. First we heal, I thought, and when it stops hurting, then we can forgive, truly forgive. But I am changing my mind. I still believe there is a lot of fake forgiveness out there, and that it is better to heal organically by feeling our pain, telling our stories and getting a "hearing" which validates our suffering, than to feign forgiveness through gritted teeth. But now I believe we can dodge and remove the swords through forgiveness. We live in a world where words are ...